Will I have to sit in the same room as my Ex?
The MIAM is always run as separate meetings, the mediator wants to listen to both parties to get a balanced view from the start.
If the conclusion is that mediation is the best way to help you, then we try and run mediation in one room as it is helpful that both parties are present to hear each others' viewpoint. However, we understand that this is not always possible and therefore, we would accommodate you by setting up a shuttle mediation. This means both parties are in separate rooms and the mediator moves between the two rooms. We are also able to stagger arrival and departure times to reduce the stress of mediation.
My Ex has organised mediation, does that mean they will have the upper hand?
No, mediation is about you both having a chance to speak and to be listened to. The mediator uses their experiences and training to help ensure that both parties are able to reach an agreed decision. Both parties are always treated as equals throughout the process.
I've been told I have to go through mediation before I can go to court, is that correct?
In the majority of cases yes. Mediation is not just cheaper and faster than making decisions through a court system, the outcomes can be stronger too as the result is created by your joint decisions. Due to these reasons the UK system for divorce means that you have to attend a MIAM meeting before you can submit your paperwork to court. There are one or two exemptions to this.
I would like to mediate in regards to the family assets but I'm not ready to do that regarding the children. Can I just cover one element in mediation?
Mediation is designed to cover the issues relevant to you. This means you can either cover assets, child care issues or both. The training and experience of the mediators means that they are equally qualified to cover all of these mediation options. The MIAM meeting will explore these options and identify which elements of the separation mediation would be best suited to help you.
We were never married, is mediation suitable for dealing with our relationship breakdown?
Yes, mediation can be used for a broad range of family situations. Marriage is one, but mediation can be used in almost all relationship situations. For example; our team often work with grandparents who would like access to their grandchildren.
Is mediation effective?
Yes. Of the cases that go to mediation, we experience in our service over 80% reaching an agreement of the issues identified. This is normally achieved in 2 mediation sessions only.